How to Be Victorious in Love

Long time no talk peoples, as I have been very busy. This busy time also includes more research to this topic which I will get to at a later date. For now, I would like to share with you this excerpt from a book I’ve been reading, “The 48 Laws of Power”, which is HIGHLY recommended.

HOW TO BE VICTORIOUS IN LOVE

But with those who have made an impression upon your heart, I have noticed that you are timid. This quality might affect a bourgeoise, but you must attack the heart of a woman of the world with other weapons…I tell you on behalf of women: there is not one of us who does not prefer a little rough handling to too much consideration. Men lose through blundering more hearts than virtue saves. The more timidity a lover shows with us the more it concerns our pride to goad him on; the more respect he has for our resistance, the more respect we demand of him. We would willingly say to you men:”Ah, in pity’s name do not suppose us to be so virtuous; you are forcing us to have too much of it…” We are continually struggling to hide the fact that we have permitted ourselves to be loved. Put a woman in a position to say that she yielded only to a species of violence, or to surprise: persuade her that you do not undervalue her, and I will answer for her heart…. A little more boldness on your part would put you both at your ease. Do you remember what M. de la Rochefoucauld told you lately:”A reasonable man in love may act like a madman, but he should not and cannot act like an idiot.”

– Life, Letters, and Epicurean Philosophy of Ninon de Lenclos, Ninon de Lenclos, 1620-1705

nice guys suck?

Happy Holidays. We’ve been out of touch lately. Sorry about that.

To hold you over until a bigger, better post comes out, let me present this Craigslist article entitled “Why Nice Guys SUCK”. Be forewarned that the letter below contains sexual situations and language. But it has a great point. Enjoy.

“Why nice guys SUCK”

This is a long rant, so bear with me or hit your back button. I’m frustrated and in no mood for your shit either, so if you don’t want to read it, well…

So I’m dating a nice guy now and it SUCKS. No other way to explain it, it just SUCKS. He’s no challenge. He agrees with everything I say. He’s got it all though – a decent job, a nice house, no kids, no psycho ex-wives, and he’s tall and cute. Anyone ever seen that Friends episode when Alec Baldwin played Phoebe’s boyfriend?? YEAH, my boyfriend is THAT nice. He’s just too fucking nice. Nice is boring. I’ve never heard him raise his voice. He’s never aggressive. He has no edge. He won’t even drive over the speed limit and that fucking annoys the shit out of me, yet I sit in the passenger seat and keep my mouth shut… watching everyone whiz by us.

And don’t get me started on the sex. Oh, excuse me… making love. After he cums (note I didn’t mention anything about ME cumming), he rolls over and says "Oh, that was nice" with a little sigh. I KID YOU NOT, he says it EVERY TIME and then he sighs like he has just woken from a refreshing nap. I finally got so tired of missionary and him looking lovingly into my eyes and smiling as he came, that I threw him down on the couch one night and mounted him. At first he was terrified – yes, TERRIFIED. He thought something had possessed me. And it HAD — it was sheer MADNESS. I fucked the shit out of him that night. And then he sighed and said "Oh, that was nice".

Now that we had the cowgirl position conquered (always with that sigh afterwards), it was time to move on to doggie. His ex-girlfriend never did doggie (hmmm… maybe there’s a "nice" ex-girlfriend to blame for his timid niceness?? That bitch…). Anyway, I digress. I tell him I want him to fuck me from behind. Yes, I used the word "fuck" and I didn’t care what he thought about it. He gets behind me and enters me, and damned if he didn’t say "OH, THIS IS NICE" !!! Are there any 35 y/o men out there that haven’t smacked a woman’s ass when doing her doggie?? YES, and he’s my boyfriend!
Tonight during sex, I think I’m gonna tell him to stick his finger in my ass when I’m riding him. THAT should be interesting.

So for the nice guys out there, my advice is this: It’s great that you’re nice (to an extent), but have some backbone. Don’t be a spine donor all your life. When your girl is out of line, say something. Don’t let her walk all over you. Occasionally, be a "bad" boy (being bad doesn’t translate to abusive or criminal). Say "No" to her sometimes. Raise your voice and be heard. Say something dirty/sexy to her occasionally. Drink a few too many beers and piss out in public. Smack her ass. Don’t ever use the word NICE to describe things, especially sex (okay, that may be a personal pet peeve). Have an interest in at LEAST one sport (or pretend to). Drive 5-10 miles over the speed limit once in awhile. Run an old lady off the road just for kicks (yeah, I’m kidding about this one… just ride her bumper for a few miles). Be aggressive during sex. Take off those damn white socks and Jesus sandals. Grow a goatee for a few weeks. Shave your balls. Stray from your routine and shake things up.

BE A MAN FOR GOD’S SAKE… and the women will fall at your feet.

Whew… THAT FELT NICE.

(Full article)

Brainwashing in the Media: “the opposite” (seinfeld)

Seinfeld has cemented itself as the best sitcom of the 90’s. But it also was a clever take on relationships involving it’s kooky cast. Jerry himself called the first date one big interview, which is true in itself.

One of the classic episodes of Seinfeld is season four’s “The Opposite”. George, the bald-headed loser of the group, is down in the dumps as all of his life’s decisions have only resulted in pain and hardship for him. That is until he is inspired to do the exact opposite, which results in him landing a gorgeous blonde of a girlfriend and a job for the New York Yankees.

Now while George’s opposite behavior is a bit extreme, he makes the right steps.

1. He orders the exact opposite of his usual at the cafe, which in turn gets looks from a woman who orders the same thing. He approaches the woman and states his current loser position. Although this is sharing too much, the right move in approaching her first worked. One could say he played up humor in his line too. (All in all, this portrays confidence.)
2. At the movie theater, he shouts down some hecklers and which gets the praise from the audience. (A bit extreme, but confident.)
3. At the end of the date, he refuses to go back to her apartment after she asks. This is great. This is playing up challenge (readers of “The System” would know all about challenge.) Simply put, he makes her wanting more by being different from any other guy. This will drive up her interest.
4. During the episode, George applies for a job at the New York Yankees, where he berates Steinbrenner (team owner) for his moves involving the team. Steinbrenner says to “hire this man immediately!” Again, a bit extreme, but George’s newfound confidence got him somewhere.

Confidence and challenge are two big parts of “The System”. In a nutshell, these two things are helpful when it comes to dating. Don’t follow all of George’s steps, but learn something from them.

See George in action:

Conversation = Light + Funny

I know, it can be hard to figure out just what to talk about on a date. Especially it’s the first or second or even third one. Guys use this opportunity to blab about how exciting they all are. They are making a strong sell, but this can turn women off. Why? Because they like to talk.

No sexism implied (never on this blog), but they just do. Talking is one thing though. You have to listen. If you slip up and forget a detail and are somehow tested (yes, tested) on it later, it’ll have a significant impact on your chances. In a negative way.

Try to steer the conversation away from depressing subjects. And, as always, AVOID religion and politics, especially if they get too hairy. The key is to keep it light and funny. A sense of humor is a must.

You must also be confident. This should go without saying. You shouldn’t apologize a billion times after every little slip-up or dominate a conversation. Give it some breathing room. If you seem bored or not interested in this girl, don’t flaunt this fact. Yes, go along till the end of the date and if you aren’t satisfied then you know it’s time to cut the cord.

Girls also like doing something that no one seems to understand: bring up exes. This is most likely a test to gauge your reaction. Again, have a snappy comeback ready and remember to change the subject. If it keeps happening, state bluntly that you don’t really appreciate it. If she doesn’t get the hint, she’s out. Again… a mystery why they bring this up. But this doesn’t mean you have to take it.

As always on a date, be curious. Pay for things, open doors, pull out the chair. Dress nice. Be a gentlemen. It’s sad to see these qualities fade as generations past, but it’s something you have to shoot for. There’s confidence and then there’s just not caring at all.

The first date is your first big test. If they schedule a second, you breathe SLIGHTLY easier. Keep the conversation light without giving your entire life story and you’ll increase interest.